My fiancee is lazy. There I've said it! He is a lazy SOB and also very inconsiderate. I work mostly nights about 40 hours/wk and go to school 5 days a week, he just works 40 hours/week. So we're both tired a lot but I still do pretty much all of the cleaning that gets done.
He wakes up early to watch The Daily Show when I have to go to school but doesn't wake me up when he gets up so that I can get ready for class. Even though I text him on my breaks from school to get him up for work, I sometimes leave class to call him if he doesn't respond to my text messages.
He invites people over for dinner without asking me first, they just show up when I'm naked running around the house getting dinner ready or just in a t-shirt and panties cooking for us.
I wash our clothes, hang them out to dry and bring them in and he won't do any laundry at all. He will leave them in the baskets for weeks.
He plays frisbee golf or poker when he knows the house needs some extra tlc. He doesn't care!
I don't want to play games and do passive aggressive shit to hurt him like most women do. Shit like put his dirty clothes out in the yard, put his dirty dishes in his chair, or make him sleep on the couch or sleep on the couch myself because I can't stand the sight of him.
That's not the kind of relationship that I want. I want to be heard and taken seriously! We've been together for about 6 years now and I don't want things to be this way when or if we get married.
I got really drunk the other night and told him that if he didn't start treating me better I would leave him. I said that if he kept taking me for granted he would lose I told him that I missed Thomas and I do. He was stable. He wasn't lazy. He visited my house and immediately wanted to help me clean it!!! If somebody walks in your house and they offer to help you clean it, it's dirty bro!!!
I said a bunch of other things that he just wrote off as drunk talk. I dunno. Drunk or not I would take that stuff seriously. Especially if you know that you are not doing all that you could do to help me out.
So, now I'm washing my own laundry, putting it away. Sleeping on the couch so that I get up for school on time. And cleaning up my own messes in the kitchen. I'm not going to nag anymore, I'm tires tired of arguing. I'm tired of screaming.
I'm just so tired.
